Difficult decisions have been made ~ ANNOUNCEMENT / [temporary] Goodbye

Announcement

If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably noticed how I’ve suddenly not been posting like I used to. I was back on track and then my blog just went poof apart from the scheduled posts and reviews I had prepared. And… Well… it’s time to talk about the reasons why because I’ve always been open about my life.

The thing is… I’ve been wanting to talk about certain things in this post for a while now, but I simply couldn’t because I know family members read my blog and it wasn’t my place to ‘tell’ them certain things. Now they know, so I’m free to share with all of you. Finally.

The biggest thing in my life right now, is how G, my partner, has been struggling with gender dysphoria. We’re still not sure where their path is going to take them, but they’re taking all the time and space possible to figure that out. Obviously, it’s been hard on everything in our lives. Only when something like gender dysphoria is something you personally have to deal with, does it become more and more clear how the community, the world isn’t quite ready for something like that. Isn’t as open-minded as we would hope.
In any case, G is figuring out who they are and I’m doing my best to support their every choice and be there for them in every way I can – which isn’t always as easy since this obviously has an impact on me as well.
The fear for Jamie is something I’m struggling with most since I’m scared of the things he’ll hear or have to go through because of G’s possible transition. I hate that I have to fear something like that but.. it’s the way this freaking world works and it sucks.

Anyway. That’s it for that topic. If you want to talk about it, if you’ve been through or are going through something similar, feel free to contact me anywhere. I’m here.

As for the other reason I’m being very absent and… will remain absent on my blog… That’s because I’ve been very busy setting up a freelancing business as a text corrector – manuscripts and such. With all my time going to my actual job, Jamie, my family and now freelancing as well, my blog has taken a huge blow.
It’s come to the point where I simply need to ‘remove’ myself from my blog so I can stop feeling guilty about neglecting it. Which is mainly the reason for this post. I don’t know when and if I’ll ever come back to Books & Munches. I love my blog and it’s been such a huge part of my life for three years now, but… Sometimes things have to change and this is one of them.

I want to be able to provide for my family without having to answer to someone else, which is why I now want to invest as much energy in my freelancing as I possibly can. I’ve only just started and we all know starting something like that is the most energy-draining. Especially since I’m combining everything right now. I can’t possibly resign from my job without having another income. So, basically, the next couple of months if not year, is going to be hard and tiring.

It makes sense for me to ‘sacrifice’ my blog because of it.

I know I have ARC’s left to read and review, and I hope I’ll find the time to actually do that. You can imagine how I barely have time to read now as well, hah. I need to contact publishers, I need to send out more emails and whatnot.

Basically, I’m calling it a day for my blog right now. For now, maybe. Forever, possibly. I don’t even know. I just know that I want to end this chapter for now so I don’t have to feel guilty about neglecting it like I have been doing these past couple of months.

Anyway. That was a little all over the place. There’s one thing I still need to do and that’s thanking every single one of you. The bookish community is one that’ll always remain dear to me. The people in the bookish blogging community are amazing, welcoming and.. I’ve found so many people I had amazing conversations with. I’m thankful for the way my blog has grown over the years. I never, ever imagined having such a following on here as I do. It’s baffling, really. 

I understand if you’re now like ‘unfollow’, because I don’t even know if and when I’ll be back. Just know that even if you do unfollow my blog, I’m still grateful for the support you gave me during my blogging time. Books & Munches has been an amazing journey and that’s all because of you.

I love you. I thank you. You’re all amazing.
If I forgot to address something or explain something, feel free to ask.

Nametag

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25 thoughts on “Difficult decisions have been made ~ ANNOUNCEMENT / [temporary] Goodbye

  1. I’m sending a lot of love and positivity to G, as well as to you and little Jamie. I have seen secondhand how unaccepting society is to those who experience gender dysphoria. Understanding your own identity is hard enough without the judgements and shaming of those around you.

    I’m sorry you had to make the difficult decision to put Books&Munches on an indefinite hiatus, but I also hope that this decision helps you out! Sometimes you need to divert attention from one area to allow other places in your life to flourish. I know great things will come for you, Kathy. ❤ I have really enjoyed our chats on here and the reviews and discussions you've brought up!

    All the best!! x Sha

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  2. Good luck with everything, and I wish you and your family the best. It’s kind of you to share these thoughts and even if you aren’t going to be posting much (or at all) for a while, I will continue to follow you! 🙂

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  3. Wishing you the best for you & your family. Sometimes sacrifices are necessary to help us stay sane. I know it’s hard to leave something you love. I hope to see you back one day!

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  4. *hugs*! You know I am always here and around and “near by” virtually if you ever need anything. I’ll always follow your blog and your journey, wherever it may take you. You’ve been beyond fabulous and I’m glad this bookish community tossed us together! I may be messaging you about your freelance gig soon, too 😉

    Wishing nothing but the best for you and your family!

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    1. I know. Thank you so much! Getting to know you through my blog has definitely been one of the best things! Especially since it was at the freaking start of it, haha!

      That’d be awesome! 🙂

      Thanks, Chelscey ❤

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  5. Life happens, unfortunately.

    I hope that whatever G decides, it’s what makes them happiest. And you and Jamie as well. I can’t even begin to understand what you’re all going through right now.

    As far as Jamie goes in the future, he’s very young right now and, again, whatever G decides, it’ll be normal for him to see G as they are. So, that will help with whatever awful things people feel the need to throw at him as he gets older. That won’t make it easier, but at least you’ll have time to prepare, if that makes sense.

    Okay, better things! Good luck with the freelancing! It’d be amazing if you were able to transition to working from home full-time, especially before it’s time for the little one to start school. I hope that it works out for you in the end.

    And the rest? Don’t worry about it and definitely don’t feel guilty about it either. Your family has got to come first! If you come back, wonderful. If not? I hope the three of you are able to be as happy as you can be, considering the mess that our world is these days. *hugs*

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    1. Thank you so much, Aymee.

      It’s definitely a lot but we’re still managing, luckily. It’s a lot of searching for both of us since their genderdysphoria automatically influences everything in our lives, even though it shouldn’t. It’s a rough world.

      It does make sense, but it doesn’t change the fear of him maybe being ostracized by others. I can only hope people will be or become openminded about everything and not judge Jamie for things he can do absolutely nothing about. Not that we can do anything about it either, but at least we know what we’re dealing with and for him it’ll be a huge question mark at first. At least until he’s old enough to properly understand everything.

      Thank you! It definitely would be amazing if I could do that. That way I could work around Jamie’s school and G’s work, which would make everything a whole lot easier, haha.

      I keep saying thank you but.. like.. thank you. I really hope I’ll be back at some point because I love my blog and this community and everyone I got to know through it. I simply want to be able to give it my all and not have it feeling as a burden like it has been lately. Books will always be so important to me and I really hope I’ll find a way and time to come back!

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    2. Yeah, it’s definitely the kind of thing that affects all of you in some way. Hoping that you’re able to keep managing until you can find your new path forward.

      Unfortunately, you’re right. As a mom, you’re going to always worry about him in one way or another, but knowing that he’ll be judged for things that aren’t of his own doing is tough. I can’t even imagine how to go about helping him to understand, either.

      It was something I’d always hoped for but wasn’t able to manage. Now, my kids are both adults (18 and 20, how did that happen?), but it’d still be a great way to work. Good luck with it all.

      Hey, sometimes thank you are the only words you have, and they’re more than sufficient! Exactly – if it feels like something you have to do rather than something you want to do, it won’t be fun any longer. Go take care of your family first. We’ll be here or not, but there will always be someone out there looking for your fun and unique perspective on things.

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  6. Thank you so much for your amazing content and support over the years- You and your blog have always been welcoming and uplifting and I will never forget it.

    Take all the time in the world you need and focus on what you have to. We understand and have your back. Even if you never come back, we’ll never forget you.

    I wish you and your family all the best in life

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    1. Awh, thank you so, so much! ❤ That means a lot to me!

      I definitely hope I'll be back at some point. I simply want to give this blog my all and that's not possible right now. Hopefully one day in the future it will be!

      Thank you! And the same to you. ❤

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  7. I’m so sad to see you go but completely understand. Family comes first and I know that a lot of us (your followers/friends) will be thinking of you. Take care and hope to see you back soon!!

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  8. I’m sorry to see you go but I completely understand. You have to do what’s best for you and your family. I can only imagine that what y’all are going through isn’t easy. Sending lots of positive vibes and strength. I will miss seeing your posts but I hope to see you back here one day.

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  9. So sad to see you go, but I completely understand! I’m wishing you and your partner and your family all the strength you need, and you know where to find me if you want to talk!

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    1. Thanks, Anniek! I’m sure we’ll be okay eventually but a *lot* of things have changed and are changing. I hope to be back someday though. 🙂

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  10. I am so sorry that you see you leave, Kathy, but I have actually reached the same conclusion; I’m closing my blog down because “things” have happened to me and I wanted to become a casual reader once again without being tethered to self-imposed obligations and commitment.

    You have always been a source of my inspiration and I loved the munches rating design! (I kinda stole my pancake rating idea from you, as a matter of fact :P)

    What you are going through is by no means easy and I feel for you.
    I hope you guys can find the best ways for your family and your precious Jamie, and best of luck with your freelancing business! I will always be cheering you on 😉

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    1. Thanks, Noriko. It’s a hard decision to make, especially since a blog like this one becomes part of its creator in a way I didn’t expect and I’m sure it’s the same for you!

      Haha, thank you! Having your own rating design is like a ‘must’ at some point. 😛

      I hope that the things that have happened / are happening to you aren’t too bad. If you ever need to vent or talk, you know where to find me. 🙂

      Thank you so much! ❤

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